Homeschool Character

When You Don’t Pay for Your Purchase…

What are you teaching your children?

Proverbs 28:6 Better the poor whose walk is blameless than the rich whose ways are perverse.

I am not sure why, but out the clear blue I recalled a situation that happened thirteen years ago. I was pregnant with my now thirteen-year-old Sophia. We had three other children, I was in Bible college, and we had NO extra money. I mean NO extra money. I have shared our no money story many times. Things were so bad. People would say to us, “Oh is it tight right now?” and we’d be like, “Tight would be a huge upgrade!” It was beyond tight! I mean, whenever I could take the kids to McDonalds, they had to share a Happy Meal. I recall one Saturday during this time while I was pregnant, I was so hungry I drove thirty minutes to my mother-in-law’s house for her to “see her grandkids.” But the real reason I went was because I knew she’d have food. We had food but while I was pregnant, I was very hungry all the time and we never had a lot of extra food. We didn’t have snacks or munchies.

Oh those books!

By God’s grace I was in Bible college (which was not a hinderance to our family financially) but I was unable to buy textbooks, so I borrowed my textbooks from the college library. One semester however we weren’t so lucky. An Old Testament Survey was the book I needed, and the library did not have a copy of it. I had no choice but to buy it.

On a Monday afternoon I went to the college bookstore to purchase the book. I took my now sixteen-year-old Gabi, with me, who was three at the time. As I looked for my book Gabi sat quietly in the children’s section in the back of the store. I found An Old Testament Survey with its nice price of $54.99.

When I was ready to pay, I went to get Gabi and discovered a problem. Gabi had found a beautiful thick Christian children’s book she started looking through. This book had 3D stickers embedded into each page as part of the story – which Gabi had peeled off! The stickers could not be reattached to the pages. The book could not be sold at that point. The price of that book was $39.00!


We already didn’t have a lot of extra money. I was only there to buy the $54.99 book, but I had no choice but to buy the children’s book Gabi took apart. This was a small quiet college bookstore. I could have very easily slipped that book back in its row and no one would have known. I could have been upset with Gabi, but I did not do either.

Doing the right thing…

Gabi had no idea what she had done. And even if I had put the book back God would have known I put the book back.

I picked the book up and walked to the front of the store. I explained to the cashier what happened, and I told the young man I would buy the book. As he was ringing the books up, he stopped suddenly and looked at me and in a very sweet tender voice he said, “I know you didn’t come here to have to buy this book and I am sorry this happened, but we really appreciate you being honest and paying for this book.”

I walked out of the store happy for Gabi actually. We were brand new Christians, we had no extra money – ever – and we did not have $39.00 to buy that book but I knew God would replace that money and I knew He would use that sweet book to touch her life.

I recently shared this story with my children. Gabi doesn’t remember this incident. They enjoyed hearing this story and had a lot of questions. I didn’t share this story to sound like I am so super spiritual. I shared it to teach them how important it is to always do the right thing. As a brand new believer, I really didn’t know much but I knew right from wrong and I knew what would please God. My children might not consider not paying for something – but there are other situations they might find themselves in and they will have to make a choice to do the right thing.

Sometimes when we are in a tough spot we behave badly. We choose the wrong option or we might mistreat each other. I don’t always get it right, but that was a time I got it right for God. I didn’t get upset with Gabi. I didn’t get upset at all. God has taken care of our family every day since that time, and He will take care of you too.

In our busy world keeping ourselves attached to phones and social media take time to share stories with your children of your wins so they can learn what it means to walk with integrity. There are so many opportunities to teach our children. Home education is not just about getting the checklist of subjects done. It’s life. Be sure to teach your children what it means to have godly integrity by doing your best to live with godly integrity.

Be sure to use every moment God gives you this school year to live like Jesus Christ and teach your children what it means to have godly character.

Proverbs 28:6 Better the poor whose walk is blameless than the rich whose ways are perverse.

~Saleama A. Ruvalcaba, MATS

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