What should I do?
Author: Saleama A. Ruvalcaba, MATS
Years ago, I was reading a book from a well-known pastor, John Ortberg called, The Life You’ve Always Wanted. It’s a great book about enjoying life to the fullest. Something he said really struck me. He said for whatever reason we cannot stand to sit in silence anymore. We cannot stand NOT hearing noise. We are consumed with keeping our minds busy. We have this need to keep our minds occupied all the time.
This goes for children.
We are constantly trying to keep our children busy.
We act like we are depraving them if they must be………. – bored!
What’s wrong with being bored? Why is it so hard to sit still and be okay with not doing anything for a while?
In this article from Forbes.com the author shares in detail how when he was a child his dad always told him it’s okay to be bored. He learned growing up that being bored helped him to think creatively, which has helped him immensely as a business owner. When we are “bored” it allows our brains to daydream which boost creativity and problem solving.
Rather than sticking our children in front of video games and TV all day to relieve their boredom why not let them be bored? Let them figure out how not to be bored or let them daydream and enjoy the fun of creative ideas in their minds.
For our youngest child, our 8-year-old, she likes to sit and make something new out of something else. She took two pizza stoppers and made a “dog bed” for her little dog toy. She makes paper clothes for her toys. She made eyeglasses using Wikki Stix. She can sit and do this for hours. I bet a lot of children can do this if given the opportunity.
Listen to God
On a spiritual level, have you ever considered that maybe God has purposed your path, so you have nothing to do?
Why would God do that?
Maybe He wants to talk to you or your children. Maybe He wants to help you make wise decisions for future events. Maybe He wants to teach you something you need to know for this upcoming school year. Maybe He wants your children to be prepared to learn how to listen to His voice.
Maybe God knows you and your family don’t spend a lot of time talking. Do your children actually talk to each other? Do you and your spouse spend quality time just talking?
Being bored is not something we should be ashamed of or upset about. We should embrace it – like crazy!
I cannot tell you how much I LOVE the days we have NOTHING to do. On those days I do not try to find something to do. I take naps. I talk with God. I make my children play with each other to boost their creatively. Yes, I even make my 17-year-old and 16-year-old play. And they do it. And they have fun!
Keeping ourselves busy makes us feel special and important – for a moment, while being “bored” allows us renewed energy, it allows our brains to strengthen, builds creativity, keeps us connected as a family – and draws us closer to God.
I encourage you to enjoy being bored. Allow your children to be bored. Their brains are doing more when they are bored rather than when they are bombarded with information overload.
Today, take a bored picture and happily share it on your social media outlets. Start a new trend of the bored HAPPY club!
Matthew 11:28 “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.
~Saleama A. Ruvalcaba, MATS
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