Trust me… You’ve Had Plenty!
Saleama A. Ruvalcaba, MATS
So it’s the end of the school year and you’re super excited right!? Why are you excited?
Are you excited because the school year is over?
…Or are you excited because despite the many ups and downs, you can look back and see the wins!
So often I talk with parents in the homeschool community who doubt themselves tremendously. We all do it. We look at other homeschool families and we make assumptions. We assume other families are so much better than we are – so much more skilled than we are – and homeschool their children effortlessly.
One of the biggest mistakes we all make is comparing ourselves. We have no idea how detrimental comparing can be. On the outside most people have a great life. We all do, right? But behind closed doors you have no idea how life is for someone else – and truth is – you don’t need to know. When you focus too much on others you lose focus on yourself. And right now you need to focus on your wins – not someone else’s imperfect homeschool life. Your homeschool life is imperfect. My homeschool life is imperfect. Your BFF’s homeschool life is imperfect. But I have plenty of wins this year and so do you.
The Puppet Win
When I think back on this school year I can think of so many things that went wrong. However, when I intentionally focus on the good I can think of plenty of wonderful moments. For example; back in December, my second daughter Sophia, who was 12 at the time, had to create a costume for a puppet for a Biblical Christmas presentation she was in.
Win #1…She drew what she wanted the costume to look like.
Win #2…She found old clothes throughout the house.
Win # 3…She then spent a week sewing the costume onto her puppet.
She did this entire project by herself. She self-taught herself how to sew. This was a huge win! Sophia learned how to take initiative and learned patience. She learned she can create something her way with items inside our home. She did not ask us for money to go out and buy materials, which would have been okay, and she did not ask us to help her. That would have been okay as well…but she learned independently how to create her own project. This moment will carry over for many years to come. She will learn how to be resourceful as she gets older and into adulthood.
Sophia struggled a little in math this school year. Am I going to be upset about having math issues and allow that to ruin our homeschool journey, or be proud of her diligent creatively?
Philippians 4:8 “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.”
One thing we often forget is, it’s so incredibly easy to look for what’s wrong in every situation. Some people are seriously gifted at finding the bad – but it takes effort to seek out those things that are good. When we complain about our homeschool journey, and we put ourselves down, do we really think if our children were in a school setting we’d have no complaints, or struggles? Of course there would still be struggles, but just like being in a school setting, you have to purposely look for the good.
The Food Win
Another win for our family was with Sophia’s older sister, Gabi. She really took her baking to another level. She bakes on a regular basis. As I type this post, Gabi baked chocolate chip banana cake last night…
And birthday chocolate chip cookies the night before…
Yes, we seriously need to start a family bakery in our house.
Gabi thrives in baking.
Late last year she had to raise money for her homeschool basketball team. Me and my husband decided we would help her sell her cookies.
Win # 1…She learned how to plan and organize her baking orders.
Win # 2… She learned how to create an invoice for her orders.
Win # 3…She learned how to package, deliver and to show gratitude to those who ordered from her.
She raised the money she needed and she learned some basic business skills.
Gabi struggled a lot this school year with Biology. But am I going to focus on her struggles with Biology or get excited for her win with business basics? Many people ordered her cookies and she gained a lot of confidence.
What’s Really Important?
Am I suggesting that math and Biology aren’t important? No…but we all struggle in some areas with school subjects. Sometimes as parents we ignore where our children blossom.
When we ignore our children’s greatest strengths while harping on their struggles we stifle their deepest passions.Tweet
Romans 12:2 “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.”
Today, we can look outside and see nothing but bad. There is bad every single place you look. There is sadness, pain, hurt – fear – you name it. We bring what’s happening in the world into our homes on a regular basis.
Yes, there is much sadness, but I bet if you look intentionally into the world you will also see so much good; so many good people, so many good moments, so many good ideas…etc! Take that same intentional effort today and look for the wins you had this school year on your homeschool journey. Pray and ask God to bring to your mind all the great moments. Ask Him to help you focus on the blessing of home education.
Tell your children today how proud you are of them for all of their many wins this school year. And then go get yourself a treat because, with God – you did it this school year!
Isaiah 40:31 “but those who hope in the Lord, will renew their strength.
They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.“
~Saleama A. Ruvalcaba, MATS
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