Homeschool Dad

Daddy Homeschool…

Is That Even An Option?

Author: Saleama A. Ruvalcaba, MATS

When our family began our homeschool journey in the fall of 2010, it was assumed that I would be the primary home educator for our family.


Probably because that’s the natural assumption by many. Women are at home, daddy works, so of course the “Mom” is the home educator.

But what if “Mom” isn’t good at it?

What if “Mom” really isn’t the best choice?

After several years of homeschooling our children we finally arrived at that conclusion.

I was not the best choice to homeschool our children.

I could not balance being a mom and a teacher.

I was “Mom.”

I was not organized in such a manner to home educate. Sure – in other aspects of life, like at my job, I can be very organized and detailed- but – as a home educator, I had a lot of trouble with being organized.

Sounds strange I’m sure…

But guess what?

It’s okay.

Proverbs 1:7 The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge, but fools  despise wisdom and instruction.

When God calls us to home educate, it’s always best to seek Him first so that we know the best path to take. I am sorry to say but me and Omar did not do this. We did not pray first to ensure we were doing what God wanted us to do – therefore, we spent many years very frustrated.

I felt like I was not helping my children at all. I know many of us feel this way – so I am not advocating all dad’s home educate. After many years in the same pattern it was clear that me and my husband had to revisit homeschooling through prayer to ensure we were making the right decision.

We were not.

Proverbs 19:10 “Listen to advice and accept discipline, and at the end you will be counted among the wise.”

My husband Omar decided to take the lead as the primary home educator and there was a big difference right away.

Omar was a lot more organized and patient. He is already a very detailed and organized person as it is, but he was able to translate that into homeschooling. He was much more focused than I was. He created schedules for our children which they learned to follow.

We saw a big difference right away.

I still helped in many areas focused on my strengths so I never completely stopped being involved. I’m just not the lead – which is a good thing!

Proverbs 2:6 “For the Lord gives wisdom; from his mouth come knowledge and understanding.”

Like most home educators, Omar feels he isn’t very good at homeschooling either – but he is much better than I was and it turned out to be the best decision for our family. We now have peace which we did not have when I was leading.

What’s Your Next Step?

Should your husband be the primary home educator?

Of course all families are different so you obviously need to ensure your husband can take the lead in homeschooling. For our family, Omar already works from home so it was an easier transition for us. But pray and ask God to give you guidance. Be sure you’re making the right decision. If changes need to be made – rely on God – not yourself – and He will open doors to give you clarity. Don’t do anything in your own power. God will in fact make a way if that is how He is leading your family.

Homeschooling is a great journey no matter who is leading.

Enjoy it!

~Saleama A. Ruvalcaba, MATS

One thought on “Daddy Homeschool…

  1. Thank you, Saleama. Dads make great homeschool teachers, especially for the older kids as they navigate a little close to dad as they grow older.


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