Are You Pleased or Disappointed With Your Child’s Progress?
by: Saleama A. Ruvalcaba
I absolutely love living in Memphis during the month of October. For the most part, it’s typically a beautiful month. It’s cool in the mornings, warm during the day, and pleasant in the evenings.
October also means that most of us are about six or seven weeks into the school year. This past week me and Omar started to evaluate some of the progress with our children. Unfortunately, we aren’t very pleased. I started getting frustrated. I immediately thought back to years ago, when I’d say; “It’s okay we have time.”
How much more time will it take? Our second oldest son Jaden will be in high school next year!
Once I started to relax a little, I quickly remembered something; it’s easy to focus on the bad in every situation in life, but how easy is it to focus on the good?
I might not be pleased with their first six-week progress, but is there any good I can take way from these first six-weeks?
We are pleased with how well the older two are learning geography. We are pleased with how our younger child is learning to write her own papers.
So, when we relax, and carefully look at the bigger pictures – we can always find something good.
Here are three ways to remain encouraged as you reflect on your child’s current progress:
- First, always remember, your children are God’s children first. He knows them better than you know them. If your child or children aren’t progressing as you’d hoped, simply seek God for His wisdom. Maybe you’re not using a curriculum best suited for your child. Maybe you’re not spending enough time or too much time on a subject. Reevaluate their learning style. My son Jaden is a visual auditory learner. I trust God as He gives us guidance as home educators to find curriculum’s and programs that are best suited for our son. So, don’t get discouraged. Simply revisit what you’ve started. Seek God – and trust his guidance and provisions.
- It’s okay to be upset. This might sound strange but one way I stay encouraged is by crying. (Really?) Yes! Have you ever noticed that sometimes we’re more upset because we want to remain strong and hold it all in? Homeschooling is hard. You are your child’s parent and teacher all at the same time. It’s hard and you’re trying your best. It’s okay to feel discouraged. We are made up of many emotions. We certainly don’t want to mistreat our children or others during our time of frustration, but it’s okay to admit to yourself you’ve made a mistake, or you don’t have it all together. No one has it all together. Don’t be afraid to express your emotions. It’s okay to cry. Believe me, you’ll feel better.
It Will Be Okay
- Remember, it will all come together. If you read my article; I Barely Graduated High School, Yet I Homeschool My Children, then you know I was spelling at a fourth-grade level at twenty-two years old. However, I will graduate with my M.A. in Theology in May. Now I am certainly not saying it’s okay to neglect your child’s education. I had NO help during my school years. I had NO guidance, yet at some point for me it all came together. I am pretty sure you’re doing way more for your child than I had, so don’t worry. It will be okay. Continue to seek God’s wisdom and trust that He will help guide your steps on this journey.
I started this post with how lovely it is here in Memphis during October.
Well for one, as I mentioned, it’s about the six-week mark for most of us homeschooling. But also, because I believe October is a beautiful month.
Memphis is sort of a strange place when it comes to the weather. We lived in California for many years. If we woke up and it was sunny and hot, then it was sunny and hot – all day.
Here in Memphis, however, we might wake up and it’s sunny and warm. Then by noon it’s cloudy and cold. Then by evening we’ll have a tornado warning. It’s crazy and highly unpredictable.
One beautiful spring day a year ago, Omar went to football practice. It was sunny and 80 degrees. He had on shorts. Within two hours, the temperature dropped to 50 degrees. He couldn’t believe it. He called me to bring him a jacket. He was freezing.
It would be easier for me to focus on the unstable weather here in Memphis and forget how lovely it is here in October. Or I can relish in the good – the lovely month of October.
No matter your progress right now as a home educator; it’s all good! Stay focused. It will be okay!
“Isaiah 26: 3-4 “Trust in the LORD forever, for the LORD, is the Rock eternal.”
-Saleama A. Ruvalcaba